I just want to say on the recent online abuse to players was shocking , in my experience in receiving it couple of years ago sent me over the edge and really took me a long time to over come it and I thought I would never ref football again . It affected my mental health. And people that troll this abuse must understand that they do not understand that what is going on in a persons personal life and need to think before they tweet or put on in social media .

Am back Reffing again and the amount of people that supported me through my bad times with depression and the after math of the trolls and still get well wishers .

So please people be mindfull what you put on social media think about if your family or friends where been attacked in this way and think of the persons mental state .

Regards

Dellboy

Dellboypolecat (Tyrone) - Posts: 15069 - 30/06/2015 09:01:52    1745148

Dellboypolecat

Fair play to you - it is a big thing to admit you were affected that badly but good to hear you are back reffing again.

I think when people join twitter for example they can get carried away & say all sorts but a bit of maturity and counting to ten never hurt. One tweet can do so mych damage, best to just pick up a phone and talk to someone than throw online abuse.

slayer (Limerick) - Posts: 6480 - 30/06/2015 10:00:14    1745177

Bloody hell

It's Del...

Good thread and welcome back!

jimbodub (Dublin) - Posts: 20600 - 30/06/2015 10:09:50    1745182

Very sorry to hear of what you went through Dell and I'm honestly delighted that you're back reffing games again

All the very best to you

jimbodub (Dublin) - Posts: 20600 - 30/06/2015 10:11:57    1745184

Great to hear from you Dell and good to see you're back reffing after what sounds like a tough time of it.

Breffni40 (Cavan) - Posts: 12115 - 30/06/2015 10:22:47    1745190

Well done Dellboy.

Mental health is a very serious issue for society at large. It is a real good news story that you came through your difficulties. Fiar play to you.

bennybunny (Cork) - Posts: 3917 - 30/06/2015 10:25:30    1745193

Fair play Dell good to see your back refeering. Speaking of online abuse has anyone seen Hoganstand Facebook page? It a disgrace. People post what they want abusing players, managers, -----

Gael85 (Dublin) - Posts: 1433 - 30/06/2015 10:32:18    1745197

Fairplay Dell. It's an Irish thing to refuse to admit your problem but you have tackled it head on. You are a credit to yourself. I'm glad to hear you are on the mend now.

Also good to see you back on this. You were one of the posters I always enjoyed.

gotmilk (Fermanagh) - Posts: 4971 - 30/06/2015 10:50:19    1745215

These days it seems so easy to post abuse online without seeing the hurt it causes.I hope it did not come from real Westmeath supporters as I for one detest this. As it was years ago and should remain the same - what goes on on a pitch stays on he pitch.The ref did his job and that's the end of it.

FLUFFY (None) - Posts: 38 - 30/06/2015 10:59:57    1745227

Dellboypolecat - well done for speaking out and welcome back.

yew_tree (Mayo) - Posts: 11227 - 30/06/2015 11:11:30    1745240

Think this is probably the first time I have agreed with Dellboy but well done and all the best in your own recovery.

We should also separate the difference between abuse. All abuse is bad and will affect individuals differently.

Trolling is bad enough but these were actual threats to kill directed at Paddy O'Rourke and indeed a former Meath footballer also.

Good luck anyway Dell

26plus6equals1 (Tyrone) - Posts: 430 - 30/06/2015 11:14:46    1745246

Well said Del and welcome back.

OLLIE (Louth) - Posts: 12224 - 30/06/2015 11:27:58    1745259

Well done Dell,

True courage.

However, the issue with recent online abuse isn't as clear cut as we'd like to think. I certainly do not condone threats to carry out acts of violence on anyway. The players who retweeted messages from his account is no stranger to winding people up and making snide remarks on twitter. So he really has to take most of them on the chin.

daytona11 (Kildare) - Posts: 4012 - 30/06/2015 11:47:47    1745273

Well done dell!

realdub (Dublin) - Posts: 8584 - 30/06/2015 12:29:18    1745333

Welcome back Del nice to hear your through that. It's a hard road back from the dark place but huge credit to you.

WildPundit (Tipperary) - Posts: 1709 - 30/06/2015 12:54:07    1745357

Good man Dell, nice to see you back and sorry to hear about the abuse you suffered, it's disgraceful carry on perpetrated by complete cowards. Happy to hear that this isn't beating you though.

Htaem (Meath) - Posts: 8657 - 30/06/2015 12:54:21    1745359

It may not be right but it certainly goes with the territory. Refs cant see everything that goes on in a match and should get much more help from their officials. Refs and players have been getting abuse since long before the arrival of cybebulluing. I'm not a ref, I get enough abuse at home! But I do admire their bravery/foolishness in taking on the job. I guess the best advice before taking up or returning to reffing is to be aware that you're definitely going to be abused and if you can't stand the heat...........

Miler (Mayo) - Posts: 1015 - 30/06/2015 17:09:04    1745593

Hey there Dell.Good to see you back on here.I was wondering where you had gone.Now I know.......sorry you had to face this type of abuse and how it affected you in such a profound way.I hope you are the better for it now.Good to see you posting.I hope your brother Ta32 is doing ok....not seen him in a while either?

seanie_boy (Tyrone) - Posts: 4235 - 30/06/2015 17:21:51    1745602

Miler mayo I have no problem getting bit of stick but when they bring your personal life in to it , to me that is going beyond bit of abuse even my past relationship and child was brought in to it and don't care what you say that Is a disgrace .


Seanie my brother doing well thanks hope your keeping good

Dellboypolecat (Tyrone) - Posts: 15069 - 30/06/2015 18:02:40    1745620

30/06/2015 17:09:04
Miler
It may not be right but it certainly goes with the territory. Refs cant see everything that goes on in a match and should get much more help from their officials. Refs and players have been getting abuse since long before the arrival of cybebulluing. I'm not a ref, I get enough abuse at home! But I do admire their bravery/foolishness in taking on the job. I guess the best advice before taking up or returning to reffing is to be aware that you're definitely going to be abused and if you can't stand the heat........... The whole attitudes around referees needs to change but that will take a very long time
Your last sentence is totally wrong and doesn't actually help things. Yes referees will get comments made about them but that doesn't mean they should have to. If referees are getting abused they need the best systems around them so that the worst stuff, anything personal etc is stopped

ormondbannerman (Clare) - Posts: 13473 - 30/06/2015 18:20:04    1745626